Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Saturday, September 17, 2011

Super Joyful Mom

Last night, I was sitting down with many super mothers. All of them carried a painful story behind them. Some of them found their life partners unfaithful, few of them were beaten up by the other half, one of them was threatened by the loan shark because of the huge borrowing of her husband and family, another one of them was left behind with one young son as the husband was having a sudden heart attack. They do not have a choice but are forced to be “super mom..” 

Life as supermom is definitely not easy, being the only breadwinner for the family and facing never enough funds to support the family, carrying out duties as father and mother of their children, fighting for time to sit down and rest awhile, having struggled in the society as people will have the color lens to view at them, being the maintenance guy at home, living in fear and insecure when the house is under attacked and etc... if all these super moms have a choice, none of them would like to be a super mom... 

After spending years with my beloved supermoms, I saw many of them rising up strongly but sad to see some of them are still living in the old old problems and issues... why why why... is our God unfair, and has He forgotten some of them ??? 

What is the crucial point of success for a single mom to become a super and joyful mom? 
 1. Forgive all the people who have wronged us intentionally and unintentionally and forget all their trespasses. As we choose to forgive, we will be the ones most benefited. 
 2. Identify all the negative emotions ( betrayal, rejection, guilt, hatred and revenge, insecurity, fear of loss). Go back to God and ask Him to heal us gradually from all these. Without healthy emotions, none of us will become a super joyful mom. 
 3. Simple child-like faith to cling to our Maker who is also our husband. Submit to His authority in all decisions. He knows what is best and gives the best to His children. Our future is totally completely in His hands. 
 
Isaiah 54 : 4 “Do not be afraid; you will not be put to shame. Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated. You will forget the shame of your youth and remember no more the reproach of your widowhood. 5 For your Maker is your husband— the LORD Almighty is his name— the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth. 6 The LORD will call you back as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit— a wife who married young, only to be rejected,” says your God.  7 “For a brief moment I abandoned you, but with deep compassion I will bring you back. 8 In a surge of anger I hid my face from you for a moment, but with everlasting kindness I will have compassion on you,” says the LORD your Redeemer.  9 “To me this is like the days of Noah, when I swore that the waters of Noah would never again cover the earth. So now I have sworn not to be angry with you, never to rebuke you again. 10 Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,” says the LORD, who has compassion on you. 

  TO BE SUPER JOYFUL MOM IS OUR CHOICE

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

我最敬佩的爸妈


(全家福摄于弟弟的婚礼)



我的爸爸是一名公务员。40年前,他每个月只领RM180薪水。妈妈是一名书记。家里非常的穷。
当我七岁那年,政府派爸爸到印尼边界上班。当时,我的妈妈每天以泪洗脸。她认为如果我们姐弟们在那山芭地方成长,我们很难可以读进好的学校,那我们姐弟们的前途就很不被看好。因此,爸妈决定离开铁饭碗,自己创一翻事业-保险。
1980年,爸爸,妈妈带了我和姐姐,妹妹和弟弟来到了民都鲁。那时,民都鲁只是个鱼村。爸爸和妈妈俩人为了让孩子们有更好的生活环境,他们誓决要同心合一的为我们建立一个舒适的家。
爸爸,妈妈终于成功的供我们四姐弟在国外完成大学课程。妈妈常说如果不是因为我们,他们早就是百万富翁。哈哈!
爸爸妈妈拥有太多值得我学习的地方。他们对神的信靠和爱,对每个孩子的了解和教导,对家里上下每个人的关怀,对邻舍的照顾,刻苦耐劳,不曾向失败低头,节俭但不吝啬….太多太多
爸爸妈妈成为我生命中学习的最好的榜样。
爸爸,妈妈,你们是孩子们的骄傲。
谢谢你们。